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Like it or not, same sex marriage is here to stay


MikeBy Mike Wilcox

No doubt last week was what I call a “watershed week” for America. I can’t recall a time frame where so many important issues were decided.

Probably the biggest is the Supreme Court’s ruling demanding that same sex marriages be allowed in all fifty states. That essentially means, no longer can individual states rule “yea or nay” on this topic. It was certainly a joyous occasion for the gay and lesbian community, as Gay Pride parades broke out in many of our major cities.

Now I’ve professed my opposition to same sex marriage in previous columns, and although I am opposed to such, I don’t condemn others who support the concept. “to each his own” I would be the first to say.

What I don’t like is all the hoopla associated with the ruling and the fact that many church leaders are concerned that they will lose their non-profit status if they refuse to marry a same sex couple.

By hoopla I mean the “in your face” attitude of a few same sex marriage supporters. I have seen social media and even television commentators gloating about the Supreme Court win. Conservatives would be more accepting if proponents were less antagonistic.

Conservative preachers (at least in the South) are concerned about marrying same sex couples. If they refuse they are afraid their church will lose non-profit status from the federal government. If they comply they will be compromising their religious principles. Heck even one probate court judge in Georgia has stated he will no longer conduct marriage ceremonies because he didn’t believe in same sex marriages.

Again, I say “to each his own.” If you want to marry someone of the same sex by all means, go for it. But if you’re a preacher and conducting a same sex marriage ceremony is against your religious principals you shouldn’t be forced by government to do so.

A second ruling by the Supreme Court to uphold Obamacare was no surprise. However, in my opinion, it is very flawed policy that has done very little to help one of America’s major problems- its health care system.

My family, one of millions, has been damaged by Obamacare. I make too much money to get any kind of subsidy in the Health Marketplace. So my choice is to spend $1200 to $1500 a month on a policy that has higher deductibles than my insurance before Obamacare, or go out of the marketplace and buy crappy insurance and be penalized at the end of the year, because I didn’t buy from the Obamacare choices.

I chose the latter. Before Obamacare my family had great health, vision and dental care for less than $500 a month. Now I have crappy health care, no vision, no dental, no prescription, and face a rather stiff penalty when I file my taxes in 2016.

My story is not much different from millions of middle-aged American families that aren’t getting subsidized. Granted its great insurance if the government is paying for most of it, but for families like mine, good health care is out of the question.

Finally I need to comment on the Confederate flag. I have mixed feelings. My libertarian viewpoint would be “to each his own.” In other words “who gives a crap.” If a person wants to fly the Confederate flag, let him. If the South Carolina legislature wants to fly it, because it is a part of their heritage, and it symbolizes bravery, and it is a tribute to those who fought in the Civil War, then so be it.

But the on the flipside, I think about those churchgoers that were murdered in Charleston. I think about the eight or so Black churches that have been burned to the ground since then. And in my mind, I gotta believe the Confederate flag is more a symbol of divisiveness than bravery. Maybe it’s time for the Confederate states to move on. After it’s only 155 years later, since that war was fought.